You’ve had it happen to you. Someone cuts you off right at the front door going into the store and you just know that you are going to run into them again. That same person manages to piss you off, get in your way, nearly run you over, and grab something as you are going for it. All in one trip to the market.
The question really is, what do you do about it? Are you the type of person that just shrugs it off? Do you ignore them, or silently stew as your headache grows larger and larger?
Let me tell you what I do in this situation. I say something. Not directly to the person, but to myself. Take today for instance. Someone came right at me with her cart so that I had to jump out of her way to be narrowly missed. She did not even make eye contact, let alone say “excuse me” or “I’m sorry, I didn’t see you there.” Nope, she just kept right on going.
In my best outdoor voice I exclaimed, “Wow, people are really rude today!” I was toning it down a notch for the sake of Dave, who was with me. I really wanted to say, “Oh, I’m so sorry! I didn’t realize that you are so much more important than me!” As it is, he looked like he wanted to melt into a puddle on the floor, or at least pretend he didn’t know me.
What do my loud, embarrassing exclamations accomplish, you may ask? Nothing, really. But it does make me feel a whole lot better about the situation.
The point, to me, is that I am not being a doormat. Why should I allow myself to get frustrated to the brink of insanity over other people’s lack of manners? I am going to let them know that they pissed me off and that they are rude. It may not make them apologize or even acknowledge me, but maybe they will think twice before doing it to someone else. Or maybe not.