Today is Dave’s and my 3 year wedding anniversary, and what a 3 years it has been. I feel like we have both grown up so much since we made it official, and I know that I have learned a lot about love and commitment.
So many young girls spend hours daydreaming about the perfect wedding day. That was never me. I spent my time daydreaming about the perfect marriage. I pictured myself as a perfect goddess of domesticity married to the perfect husband, living in the perfect home with our perfect kids.
I can’t say that vision has come true. My marriage is not perfect, because it is better. Life would be boring if everything was perfect! We have had many ups and downs, but all of them has led to a stronger conviction that we are right together. One of the things I have learned since getting married is that love is a journey, not a destination. Marriage doesn’t end at the wedding. The wedding is just a party to celebrate the life you are about to begin. It is really a bon voyage as you start on your lifetime journey of love and commitment.
During the first three years of our journey there have been a few bumps along the road, for sure. There have been times when I thought to myself that it is just too difficult, or that maybe it is just too hard for such different people to live together and be a strong unit. However, I recently came across this amazing quote: “The perfect marriage is simply two imperfect people who refuse to give up on one another.”
That is so true, is it not? When you are getting married you need to think long and hard because you are not only committing yourself to loving and living with the other person for the rest of your life, you are committing to never giving up on them. You are committing to the journey.
That being said, I am so glad that I made that commitment to Dave. Neither of us is perfect. We drive each other absolutely crazy! But who else would love me enough to put up with my craziness, and vice versa? Each cross roads that we come to, we decide that no matter which way we go, we will go together. And every time it seems we have reached an impasse, we figure out a way to make it work, and we come out stronger in the end.
Dave, I love you, and I love celebrating the day that we began the journey of marriage together. I may not have spent time daydreaming a fairy-tale wedding, but it was still a perfect day. A picture says a thousand words, so here are a few of my favorites: